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Author: didibarbour

A Shift In Focus For A World Of Difference

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This time of year seems to trigger the crazy in most of us – for reasons we know all too well, along with the auto triggers – engaging our less than stellar reactions. What IF we can just press pause to reframe what we’re doing, to rethink  all the “Need to, got to, absolutely must do… urgency” lists we carry on our phones, on paper and in our head. Ask yourself – are they really worth the stress you’re feeling – and the way you will show up, on edge and completely depleted? What IF the goal is to reframe […]

Productivity: Laser Focus VS. The Multitasking Myth

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The foundation for achieving success is in aligning how you spend your time on the daily choices that either support or subvert your dedicated focus on your highest priorities. Research has shown that multitasking is not the best choice for progress on your desired goals.   Here are four productivity tips to help you overcome that distraction based fallacy of multitasking, so you can actually accomplish more, while boosting your brainpower and wellbeing with greater focus on those priorities. Set specific times to check incoming e-mail, and turn off the tempting distraction of notifications (yes, including all social media). Identify your […]

What’s Your Energy Spending Style?

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We all operate on energy.  Awareness of how and where we invest or squander it can help us harness and direct it for better returns.  Our personal ‘energy pie’ is finite which means each interaction taxes and uses chunks of that pie. Developing awareness by consciously appropriating energy, time and focus, helps us invest rather than deplete those resources for a higher ROI. How are you using your personal energy? Do you regularly invest it into what you want develop and grow in your life – or are you squandering that precious energy aimlessly on non-fulfilling, short-term, dead-end, inconsequential pursuits? […]

Rebound Or Let Failure Stop You?

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  From Confucius, “Our greatest glory is not in never failing, but in rising every time we fall.” , to Nelly’s ‘GO’ lyrics, “…it’s not how you hit the ground, it’s how fast you get back up and go – keep going…” Whether you’re a top leader, an upper-level manager, or just beginning your career, it’s important to realize that in the pursuit of big goals , no one is immune to setbacks and obstacles.  They will happen along the way and in varying magnitudes. That realization, in the midst of the agony can shine a light in what feels like […]

Your Siren Call: To Heed or Silence It?

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“Within each of us are heights yet to be scaled, goals to be achieved – beyond our fears, beyond the status quo.” Didi L. Barbour Why allow the Explorer & Seeker within to lure you into uncharted territories?  Because to venture beyond the routine, is to delight and flourish with new pleasures, discoveries, and experiences in new worlds that beckon! It’s been advised that on our deathbed, the top regrets will not be for failing while stretching our boundaries, the biggest laments will be for what we failed to attempt. Where will Your Life Compass take you?  If you dare […]

Personal Declaration Of Independence From What?

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Freedom is an equal opportunity privilege afforded to all, to pursue dreams – of happiness, lifestyle, and success with options, and choices. It is truly is a sad day when we realize that the only person, thing or circumstance holding us back is our own limited self-concept based on the past instead of owning the personal power of our accomplishment of who we have evolved into! ‘Through loyalty to the past, our mind refuses to realize that tomorrow’s joy is possible – only if today makes way for it; that each wave owes the beauty of its line only to […]

The Critic Within Our Control

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The most damaging of pranks is the unquestioned relationship with the harshest of critics,  in the form of our inner judge, whose attacks are incessant, with confidence-depleting chatter, duping us into believing what it says.  The good new is that changing the dynamic of this abrasive relationship, for a more supportive one is within our control. The first step is to simply acknowledge and express appreciation to that internal judge’s intention.   The intent is to keep us safe by maintaining the status quo, within a small world full of limitations.   Step two is to declare change by ‘doing life […]

Do Your Goals Reflect Your Song?

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“If only the best songbirds sang, the forest would be a very quiet place.” I don’t recall who proclaimed this, but it is so true! In nature birds just do their ‘thing’ and sing. They don’t wait to master the right notes, for the perfect circumstances, nor do they worry about how they will be perceived or judged. So go ahead – follow the pointers from mother nature, pursue your the goals that make your heart sing. It’s your song, give IT voice and wings. Can you feel your spirit soar?  

Calibrate Your Life Compass

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“The journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step.” Lao-Tzu   Charting the course to your goals is more than just reaching the destination to your desired success.  When your key values are reflected in your goals, they serve as you intrinsic compass for navigating to what is important to you.   Those values become the directional set points of your life compass, as you grow & progress to your priority goals.   Values inspire and serve as signposts for deeper engagement & commitment to your priority goals,  guiding you with the meaningful purpose in achievement. Living your values in […]

Fitness And Self-Care ROI?

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Do you factor a daily block of time into your schedule for improving your overall wellness? Incorporating cardio, resistance or meditation time on a regular basis infuses each day and all your tomorrows with wonderful vitality and more productivity. A well-maintained and calibrated machine runs more effectively. How are you tending to the fitness of your mind, body and soul of your personal operating system? Taking good care of those domains is not a one-time event; it’s a way of life. A fitness lifestyle does wonders helping you be more effective at achieving all your other life goals! Can you […]

Fueling On Change With Positive Energy

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In life, there is one thing that is certain, change is a constant and something is always changing. With the official arrival of summer, we are reminded that seasonal changes and cycles are constant and inevitable. These cycles relate to the rotation of the earth; monthly cycles to the moon; annual cycles to the relative position of the sun and stars. In our own life, we may need to be reminded of our own personal changes and cycles in relation to our environment, relationships, and season in life. Our perception and response to change is often more important than the […]

Our Best Memories

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Our best memories are not made on a cell phone, pc or tackling an endless to-do list. Our best memories are made in face to face moments. Doing what we enjoy, taking time to be with the people we enjoy. It’s about a deliberate pause to decide who and what brings you joy, then making the time to be there! Here’s to making memorable moments this weekend!

Show & Tell the Unwelcome Guest the Door?!

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Politely of course,  à la Dr. Seuss! It is beyond mid-April, yet this Winter unrelentingly hangs around, and has long outworn its welcome!  A continuing, tenacious wintry scene, brings one of my favorite Dr. Seuss book title to mind:  Marvin K. Mooney, Will You PLEASE GO NOW!   “I don’t care how you go, JUST GO! NOW!” Poetic license declared and granted by inserting the chosen name of someone, or something that has imposed a presence way beyond comfort.   Keep repeating, as in this case, “Snowy F. Winter, I don’t care how you go, PLEASE JUST GO!! NOW!!!” Could it be […]

The Cruelest of Pranks?

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The cruelest April Fool’s prank is the one our inner critic dupes up into believing.  To create a new relationship with self and life, simply thank it for attempting to help by keeping you small, and then dismiss it!  Repeat enough times to reduce the inner critic to an occasional annoyance rather than an overshadowing presence.  Then go step into the fullness of all that life has in store for you.  Happy first of April and everyday !

Practice as a High Yield Investment

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To become your personal and professional best, i.e., being the best you possible, at what you pursue, is the ultimate success!   For most people, it doesn’t happen magically.  It takes time and practice. The presenting scientist at lecture I recently attended declared that research quantified that it takes 1000 hours to master a new skill.   That seems like a lot of hours. The distinction between focused time invested vs. time idly spent is huge.  That’s the value of hours dedicated to learning what you deem important.  The idea that practice time in learning a new language, meditating, or handling a […]